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Friday, June 01, 2007

BLAST FROM THE PAST!
The Funeral of

I CAN'T

RIP
June 1, 2007

Do you ever get tired of hearing or saying "I Can't". Would would happen if everyone of us always thought "I Can't" to this or "I Can't" do that... what would happen. Below is an e-mail that I received several months ago and I think that is has a wonderful message. So today, we are having a funeral.....

THE I CAN'T FUNERAL

Donna's fourth-grade classroom looked like many others I had seen in the past. Students sat in five rows of six desks. The teacher's desk was in the front and faced the students. The bulletin board featured student work. In most respects it appeared to be a typically traditional elementary classroom. Yet, something seemed different that day I entered it for the first time. There seemed to be an undercurrent of excitement.

Donna was a veteran small-town Michigan schoolteacher only two years away from retirement. In addition, she was a volunteer participant in a countywide development project I had organized and facilitated. The training focused on language arts ideas that would empower students to feel good about them and take charge of their lives. Donna's job was to attend training sessions and implement the concepts presented. My job was to make classroom visitations and encourage implementation.

I took an empty seat in the back and watched. All the students were working on a task, filling a sheet of notebook paper with thoughts and ideas. The ten-year-old student closest to me was filling her page with "I Can'ts."

"I can't kick the soccer ball pass second base."
"I can't do long division with more than three numbers."
"I can't get Debbie to like me."

Her page was half full and she showed no signs of letting up. She worked on with determination and persistence.

I walked down the row glancing at students' papers. Everyone was writing sentences, describing things they couldn't do.

"I can't do ten pushups."
"I can't hit over the left-field fence."
"I can't eat only one cookie."

By this time, the activity engaged my curiosity, so I decided to check with the teacher to see what was going on. As I approached her, I noticed that she too was busy writing. I felt it best not to interrupt.

"I can't get John's mother to come in for a teacher conference."
"I can't get my daughter to put gas in the car."
"I can't get Alan to use words instead of fists."

Thwarted in my efforts to determine why students and teacher were dwelling on the negative instead of the positive "I Can't" statements, I returned to my seat and continued my observations.

Students wrote for ten minutes. Most filled their page. Some started another."Finish the one you're on and don't start a new one," were the instructions Donna used to signal the end of the activity. Students were then instructed to fold their papers in half and bring them to the front.

When students reached the desk, they placed their "I Can't" statements into an empty shoe box. When all of the student papers were collected, Donna added hers. She put the lid on the box, tucked it under her arm and headed out the door and down the hall. Students followed the teacher. I followed the students.Halfway down the hall the procession stopped. Donna entered the custodian's room, rummaged around and came out with a shovel. Shovel in one hand, shoebox in the other, Donna marched the students out of the school to the farthest corner of the playground. There they began to dig.They were going to bury their "I Cant's!"

The digging took over ten minutes because most of the fourth graders wanted a turn. When the hole approached three-foot deep, the digging ended. The box of "I Cant's" was placed at the bottom of the hole and quickly covered with dirt.Thirty-one 10- and 11- years -olds stood around the freshly dug gravesite. Each had at least one page full of "I Cant's" in the shoebox, three-feet under. So did their teacher.

At this point Donna announced, "Boys and girls, please join hands and bow your heads." The students complied. They quickly formed a circle around the grave, creating a bond with their hands. They lowered their heads and waited.

Donna delivered the eulogy."Friends, we gather today to honor the memory of "I Can't." While he was with us on earth, he touched the lives of everyone, some more than others. His names, unfortunately, has been spoken in every public building - schools, city halls, and state capitols and yes, even The White House.

We have provided "I Can't" with a final resting place and headstone that contains his epitaph. He is survived by his brothers and sisters, "I can, 'I will' and "I'm going to Right Away.' They are not as well known as their famous relative and are certainly not as strong and powerful yet. Perhaps someday, with your help, they will make and even bigger mark on the world. May 'I Can't' rest in peace and may everyone present pick up their lives and move forward in his absence. Amen."

As I listened to the eulogy I realized that these students would never forget this day. The activity was symbolic, a metaphor for life. It was a right-brain experience that would stick in the unconscious and conscious mind forever.Writing "I Cant's," burying them and hearing the eulogy. That was a major effort on the part of this teacher. And she wasn't done yet.

At the conclusion of the eulogy she turned the students around, marched them back into the classroom and held a wake. They celebrated the passing of "I Can't" with cookies, popcorn and fruit juices. Donna cut out a tombstone from butcher paper. She wrote the words "I Can't" at the top and put RIP in the middle the date was added at the bottom, "3/28/80."The paper tombstone hung in Donna's classroom for the remainder of the year.

On those rare occasions when a student forgot and said, "I Can't," Donna simply pointed to the RIP sign. The student then remembered that "I Can't" was dead and chose to rephrase the statement.

I wasn't one of Donna's students. She was one of mine. Yet that day I learned an enduring lesson from her.Now, years later, whenever I hear the phrase, "I Can't," I see images of that fourth-grade funeral. Like the students, I remember that "I Can't" is dead.

So today, I too am burying the phrase "I Can't"....
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Blogger Comedy + said ... (6/01/2007 11:20 AM) : 

What a wonderful funeral...the best ever. So true and I wish everyone in the world could hear and understand this message. Thanks for making my day. Big Hug! :)

 

Blogger Comedy + said ... (6/01/2007 11:35 AM) : 

This was so good I did a shout-out over at my place. Excellent!

 

Blogger Empress Bee (of the High Sea) said ... (6/01/2007 11:46 AM) : 

me too. thanks dixie!!

smiles, bee

 

Blogger Qtpies7 said ... (6/01/2007 12:13 PM) : 

Very cool! We may have to do something similar.

 

Blogger kaliblue said ... (6/01/2007 12:19 PM) : 

Right on!! great inspirational post here{:-).
Have a great weekend!

 

Blogger the108 said ... (6/01/2007 1:05 PM) : 

That's awesome! What a great lesson to teach those children!

 

Blogger Dixiechick said ... (6/01/2007 1:26 PM) : 

Comedy, yes it is a task that we should all strive for. Thanks for the shout-out.

Mrs. Bee, you're so very welcome.

qtpies, that would be great!

kaliblue, I really like it the first time around.

Kyra, yes a very good lesson for children of all ages.

 

Blogger Peter Haslam said ... (6/01/2007 3:39 PM) : 

What a great lesson. One we can all learn from

 

Blogger Rhonda said ... (6/01/2007 3:59 PM) : 

Comedy+ sent me over...
I love this post.

I think I may have an "I can't" funeral for myself this weekend.
This was a much needed post for me.

Thanks!!!

 

Blogger Shelly Kneupper Tucker said ... (6/01/2007 5:08 PM) : 

Oh, my! Comedy + said this was not to be missed, and she was so right (again). Thank you for an inspirational post!
This Eclectic Life
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Blogger Linda said ... (6/01/2007 7:08 PM) : 

Great post, Dixie, and very inspirational! More of us need to have these kind of funerals.

 

Blogger Sarge Charlie said ... (6/02/2007 10:29 AM) : 

can't never could.....

 

Blogger Travis said ... (6/02/2007 1:11 PM) : 

I keep an index card in my wallet with the phrase "I Can" written on it over and over on the front, and the phrase "It Don't Matter" on the back.

 

Blogger Matt-Man said ... (6/03/2007 10:18 AM) : 

Nice post...I replace "I Can't" with "Whatever it Takes" Cheers Dixie..

 

Blogger TechnoBabe said ... (6/03/2007 7:03 PM) : 

In our house we don't use "coulda", "woulda" or "shoulda" and now I will add "I can't". Very good post. I want to reference it on my blog.

 

Blogger Stine said ... (6/04/2007 6:03 AM) : 

I just had to link to it, too.
Great story, great thought.

 

Blogger Dixiechick said ... (6/04/2007 10:08 AM) : 

Peter, yes we should ALL learn from this. Thanks for stopping by.

Rhonda, hope your "I Can't" funeral went well over the weekend. Thanks for stopping by.

Shelly, you are so very welcome. Sometimes we just have to have a little inspiration. Thanks for stopping by.

Linda, I totally agree.

Sarge, just like the little red engine.. I think I can, I think I can...

Trav, I need to make me one of those index cards. Excellent idea.

Matt, What ever it takes is a good replacement.

Technobabe, feel free to reference this on your blog anytime. It's a lesson we should all learn from. Thanks for stopping by.

Stine, that is definitely alright by me. Thank for stopping by.

 

Blogger that frolicsome kid said ... (6/08/2007 2:12 AM) : 

Hey, I came from Technobabe's site. And I really like this wonderful post of "I can't"s. It's very inspiring. Thank you for sharing! =)

 

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